Watching someone you care about struggle with their mental health can be difficult. You might feel helpless, unsure of what to say, or afraid of saying the wrong thing. But the truth is, your support can make a meaningful difference in their healing process.
Mental health challenges—whether anxiety, depression, trauma, or something else—can be isolating. Your presence, patience, and understanding can be a source of comfort. In this post, I’ll share practical ways you can support a loved one while also taking care of yourself.
1. Start with Compassionate Conversations
It’s not always easy for someone struggling with their mental health to open up. They may feel ashamed, overwhelmed, or afraid of being a burden. That’s why starting a conversation with empathy and without judgment is key.
What to Say:
- “I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed like yourself lately. I’m here for you.”
- “I care about you, and I want to help in any way I can.”
- “You don’t have to go through this alone—I’m always here to listen.”
What to Avoid:
- “Just try to be positive.” (Minimizes their feelings)
- “Everyone feels like this sometimes.” (Dismisses their experience)
- “You have so much to be grateful for.” (Invalidates their emotions)
The goal isn’t to fix their problems but to let them know they’re not alone.
2. Listen Without Judgment
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is simply listen. Let them share their thoughts and feelings at their own pace, without rushing to offer solutions.
Try active listening by:
- Maintaining eye contact and nodding occasionally to show you’re engaged.
- Repeating back what they’ve said in your own words (“It sounds like you’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately.”).
- Avoiding interruptions or quick reassurances (“You’ll be fine!”).
Your presence alone can be reassuring.
3. Offer Practical Support
When someone is struggling, even basic tasks can feel overwhelming. You can help in small but meaningful ways:
- Offering to run errands or prepare a meal.
- Helping them schedule a doctor’s appointment or therapy session.
- Checking in with a simple text: “Thinking of you. No need to respond, just know I’m here.”
These small gestures show that you care without putting pressure on them to ask for help.
4. Encourage Professional Help, but Don’t Force It
While your support is valuable, professional treatment is often necessary. If your loved one is hesitant, approach the topic gently:
- “Talking to someone doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you’re taking care of yourself.”
- “I can help you find a therapist if that feels overwhelming.”
- “Would you like me to come with you to an appointment?”
If they resist, don’t push. Simply keep the door open for when they’re ready.
5. Be Patient—Healing Takes Time
Mental health recovery isn’t linear. Some days will be better than others, and setbacks are normal. Avoid frustration if progress seems slow.
- Don’t take withdrawal or irritability personally.
- Reassure them that they’re not a burden.
- Celebrate small victories, like them getting out of bed or attending a therapy session.
Your steady presence can be a source of comfort even when they don’t say it out loud.
6. Take Care of Yourself, Too
Supporting someone through mental health struggles can be emotionally draining. Make sure you’re also prioritizing your own well-being:
- Set healthy boundaries (it’s okay to take breaks).
- Talk to someone you trust about your own feelings.
- Engage in self-care activities that recharge you.
You can’t pour from an empty cup—taking care of yourself allows you to continue being there for them.
Final Thoughts
Being there for a loved one struggling with mental health isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about showing up, listening, and offering support without judgment. Even the smallest efforts can make a big difference.
If you or your loved one need help, don’t hesitate to reach out to a mental health professional. No one has to go through this alone.